So this week we have really been focusing our wedding attentions to the invites... A daunting task to say the least. However, I do have to give some wedding love to my ever wonderful fiance for being very proactive and a huge part of the creating, designing, and selection of our invites! He and his dad have been working really hard on getting the wording, layout, etc just perfect for the last few weeks. Which brings me to the question of the day! How do I word...
"Don't bring your baby to my wedding!
I realize that I may sound like a completely crazy bridezilla. So for that... I am kind of sorry. However, I stand firm in my decision that if your baby cannot drive itself to the ceremony/reception, or if it is not carrying a ring bearer pillow or throwing rose petals down the aisle...it's not invited. If your baby cannot hold its own fork to feed itself, or you still have to hide knives from it at the dinner table, or if it can't have a bourbon and diet...its likely not invited. Now, the bourbon and diet thing is questionable. # 1 because some parents might think boozing up your baby for sedation purposes/ "the sore gums from teething" wise tale is ok. And #2 some adults we are inviting really shouldn't be allowed to have bourbon/wine/alcohol of any kind past 2 bevys, but that's a completely different kind of baby.
Don't get me wrong people, there is a high likelihood that I love your baby and I too think your baby is precious and the most wonderful thing in the world. I know you think your baby won't cry during our ceremony because it is, "SO GOOD!, She/He never makes a peep in public places!" I am sure you are completely outraged at my stance on you not bringing your precious little angel because of their "always" good behavior. I know better folks. Let's say for a moment that your judgment is slightly clouded...perhaps the sound of your baby crying/ga-ga-goo-gooing has become almost like static white noise in your mind. Or maybe you are so sleep deprived from the constant crying you think only 10 minutes of crying is like no noise at all. What you may think is a very quiet and minuet coo is in fact a noise loud enough during the ceremony to prompt me...in wedding gown/full hair and make up, mid vows... to turn and stink eye you in my fit of fury regarding your little muffins noises! Embarrassing? Unnecessary? Easily Avoidable? YES on ALLLLLLLL accounts! (A word to the wise, in case any of our guests miss the memo or aren't able to understand wedding invite etiquette, we have back up. My brother the baby bouncer :).)
I realize its hard to come by a big event where all your distant friends and relatives may be in the same place at the same time since your little bundle of joy has graced the earth with its presence. I completely understand the need to show your baby off to everyone so they can dote and oggle and "oh aren't they grand" all over your mini miracle. Our wedding is NOT that day darlings. That's what birthdays are for! When you want your baby to be showcased have it a little birthday bash. I'll make the cake, I'll arrange for the petting zoo, I'll be your baby party planning extraordinaire. I will come with bells and whistles on to celebrate your baby and every inch of its fantasticness. I LOVE your baby...but not at our nuptials friends! The only persons being showcased on OUR day will be US!
This may be selfish, you may hate my stinking guts for a little while. I think you and I both know we will both sleep better at night knowing that I wont have to stink eye you in my wedding dress mid "I do". For those of you that know me well... you know this would happen. I'm not above stopping the ceremony for a "do-over" while you and your baby sneak out the back door to avoid the bride's evil eye. Don't make me do this...get a babysitter, have some drinks, and meet me on the dance floor. :)
Cheers and Kisses,
A Future MRS.